For as long as I can remember, friends have hold me, “You’re too nice.” I’m sharing this only to make a point — which is this: I choose to be nice. And I’m nice to everyone until they demonstrate that my trust and niceness may have been misplaced. I prefer it this way. I opt to believe in others knowing they may disappoint me. In fact they may outright screw me in one way or another. Worse, for me, there’s a good possibility I might not even see it coming.
Still I have and will continue to make a conscious choice to be nice. I take full responsibility for whatever happens because of these person-by-person decisions.
Of course, I’ve had plenty of unpleasant experiences thanks to the choices of others. And I’ve had some good cries and set backs thanks to the actions of others as well.
BUT — and remember the B I G info always comes after a BUT….over the long run? I believe niceness has served me well. I think by choosing to be nice I’ve won more in so many important ways: Friendships. Work opportunities. Happiness. And Life overall.
I’ll keep getting warned by others who I know have my best interests at heart. And I’ll consider their warnings. Then, I’ll likely opt to “look under the hood” myself. Only time will tell if I’ve made the right choices. But (oh jeez…another but) either way? I trust not only will I be fine…I’ll continue to win and experience more joy this way than approaching life and others any other way.
Lots of love,
I’m @DianGriesel a perception analyst & strategist; creative attitude disrupter & adjuster; author of many books and the blogger & model known as @SilverDisobedience More info on my websites and at Wilhelmina Models. Silver Disobedience® is a Registered Trademark.