The other day in my story I posted: “Be so happy that when others look at you they become happy too.” I also shared a video about what we can and can’t control. In response to these I received a few direct messages telling me that I was “tone deaf,” “couldn’t read the room,” & “out of touch.”
As usual, I zoomed in on the perspectives of these folks and I know exactly what they are thinking I’m missing in world news.
Yet, when I posted those words, it was because I am a firm believer that if there is one despondent person in the world, it is one too many. And, I believe there are actually a lot of sad people who’d really like to talk and that maybe a conversation might make all the difference in their world. I further believe that a smile is a great way to start a conversation and that maybe just being smiled at gives someone hope to get through today and into tomorrow. Maybe a smile from a friend or even a stranger would encourage someone who might be suffering in silence; be the prompt for a conversation that reminded them they are not alone; and that somehow creates a human connection. I am acutely attuned to what I can and cannot control; what is within my power; and, what is not. I will always strive to find ways to expand my power, but I will always, more importantly, seek to act in consideration of what is within my power today.
Anyone who knows me, might cite my flaws as being too sensitive, overly empathic, a Pisces, an emotional being or zoom in on a variety of personal traits that make me stumble through life. But tone deaf? Unless we’re talking about how I sing? That’s a new one…and I don’t think it’s an accurate descriptor of me at all…but whatever, it’s just opinions.
But on that “note” (yes, a light pun is intended) I’ll stand by what I said: If you can muster the energy, Smile. It’s one of your most powerful assets. I look for smiles on strangers every day and I’m often deeply impressed and amazed by who manages to give them away. And it is those moments of connection — like the smiles I get from you all that recharge me in indescribable ways. So, again, I thank you.
I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience