Have you ever noticed how, when we’re angry at someone, it’s so hard to look at them? Or maybe you’re the opposite: When you’re angry, you stare the other person down. Then there are the times when we’re hurt and we just want to look past another person—in an attempt to ignore their existence while we reconcile our emotions. Yet again, when we feel in love, we get googly eyes!  

It’s said that our eyes are the windows to our souls, so when we’re angry, venting or raging, maybe looking away is how we hide any shame we might feel about releasing those emotions. 

But even sometimes when we’re feeling love and affection toward another, it can be hard to maintain eye contact. Is it embarrassment? Fear of having our feelings exposed and possibly not welcomed as we might prefer?

Gazing into another’s eyes brings reaction and emotion to the surface. It creates vulnerability.         

Sometimes we avoid the eyes of another because we’re feeling insecure, submissive, less than, unprepared, nervous, uncomfortable, disinterested, hiding, having a bad day—but sometimes it’s because of love.  

Eye contact is where our power lies. It is our connection to another. It’s not just what we see, but how we see and feel. 

If you notice yourself or another avoiding eye contact, you’ve received an important message worth deciphering. Trust, confidence and openness may be missing.There is something causing inhibition. While eye contact is associated with social connection, it’s also a balance.  And in an era when so much time is spent looking at a screen, maybe we need to focus on getting back to looking deep into the eyes of others and experiencing connection in the old-fashioned sense of the word.

I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience A Perception Analyst who shares my Daily Meditations for other Ageless, Passionate & Curious People.  More info in my bio & my website.