We are as much of a pain in the arse when we take offense as when we give it. Every offense is tied to perspectives. And no matter how aware or enlightened we become through our years, we will never be able to control another’s perspective of the offenses they perceive we have given. We never become perfect people who never offend.
So if we believe we might have offended another—or if someone tells us we’ve offended them—try apologizing sincerely. Agreeing the apology is warranted? That’s irrelevant. The purpose of the apology is to help restore balance within the relationship: Not with elaborate justifications and explanations, just a sincere “sorry” and letting it go.
The only thing we lose with each apology—what we give to others—is our defensive ego. And I can assure you this: Egos are very strong, so we should have no worries about losing ours when we strive for greater peace by releasing our resentment and anger.
PS: This is one where I highly recommend watching the IGTV video @SilverDisobedience on Instagram because I ad lib and explain this concept a bit more thoroughly!
I’m @DianGriesel aka a perception analyst & strategist, creative attitude disrupter, author of books and the blogger and model known as @SilverDisobedience More info on my websites (search my name) and at Wilhelmina Models. Silver Disobedience® is a Registered Trademark.