As we reflect on making changes in our lives, we benefit by understanding the steps that make change possible.

Change begins with our awareness of what might not be working. Next we need to clearly identify all the reasons we would benefit from making the change. Then, we must assess, analyze & confront any fears we’re associating with the change, remembering that fears, underlying anxiety or worries about changes are rarely more than False Evidence Appearing Real. Lastly we’ll need to act and overcome our inertia to make the change possible. 

While all this might seem like a tall order…the number one reason we often won’t initiate change — even one we believe would be beneficial — is because we’re afraid of what others will say and how they’ll react. 

This is faulty thinking for a few reasons. 1) We’ll never be able to predict exactly how others will feel and react to anything, including ourselves, now or at any time in the future. 2) The only way relationship dynamics can improve is by taking the initiative to change things that aren’t working. And 3) When we commit to change those surrounding us notice, have no choice but to accept our decision and often begin to change for the better as well. 

While time changes some things, many of the changes that might actually be most important to us, must be changed by our choices and actions.

Lots of love,

I’m @DianGriesel a perception analyst & strategist; creative attitude disrupter & adjuster; author of many books and the blogger known as @SilverDisobedience  Silver Disobedience® is a Registered Trademark.