When you think of “who you are” — have you ever tried to determine how much of that definition is defined by your own perceptions vs. what others have shared with you? While our self-perceptions are an amalgamation of both our self-interpretations coupled with those of others, often it’s those of others that seem to impact our behaviors more heavily — both for the good and bad of our daily relations.
It’s a good thing to try to break down what we think about ourselves vs. what others have “told” us or even “shown” us about their perspectives regarding our being because once we understand the difference, we can start to make choices that reflect what we’ve decided about who we are and who we want to be.
For example: If I’m told: “You’re just a nice person” — this could very well be true. But, it also may be an assessment that keeps me feeling as if I cannot express myself when I’m upset.
Or maybe I’m told: “Staying fit is easy for you,” which could be true but it is not likely as staying fit and healthy takes a lot of effort and that is not being acknowledged.
Or maybe I’m told: “You are a b%*Tc#,” which could be true all the time, in that moment or just plain reflect that I’m having a bad moment or that someone else doesn’t like that I’m asserting myself.
The possible combinations that make up “who we are” are endless but worth exploration and consideration. It’s our opinion of ourselves that counts the most and hopefully we are someone we really respect.
I’m @DianGriesel aka a perception analyst & strategist; creative attitude disrupter & adjuster; author of The Silver Disobedience Playbook & TurboCharged: The Silver Disobedience Edition; and the blogger & model known as @SilverDisobedience More info on my websites (search my name) and at Wilhelmina Models. Silver Disobedience® is a Registered Trademark.