People often tell me that I should use this blog to tell people what to do. To speak up on issues. To opine on what’s wrong in the world and give directions on how to right it.
Here’s my response to that: Whenever I find myself thinking about what “people” should do…I remind myself that I am a “people,” too.
And as a person who is overly attuned, I see plenty of things happening that I think are right and wrong in the world. As a “people” I believe it is my job to start the “changing” with myself before I start telling anybody else what they need to change. To focus on my behavior, issues, thoughts, challenges, ideas and actions. To ask myself which of “my stuff” might need tweaking, adjusting, deleting, repurposing, editing or questioned. To challenge myself to accept the challenge of listening to what I don’t want to hear. To think about what I do see and hear. To decide the validity, truth, right or wrongs and to proceed accordingly: Thinking, speaking and acting in ways to promote the change I’d like to see. To acknowledge that change is a very (often painful & frustratingly) slow process.
At 63 years old, if I’ve learned anything it is this: I’ require 24/7/365 of intense emergency triage care IF I think I can change another’s thinking by “telling them what to think and do.” I’ll turn blue before I get the response I want. While I’ll admit that I sometimes stumble with this (namely with our children)… I’ve sadly learned it doesn’t work, will never work and is futile. I must respect and remind myself: We are each on our own journey.”
So, all I can do is behave in ways that I respect. Act with dignity. Choose my words carefully. Think about what feels wrong and do my best to right it. Pray. Pray a lot. Meditate to increase my strength and clear my thinking. Eat, sleep and move my body in ways I know to support health because a sound mind is often a reflection of a sound body and vice versa.
In a private one-on-one conversation, you might hear more from me…but that won’t be limited to a text or 2,200 characters: It would be in-person where we’d be able to observe each other’s body language, assess tone of voice and maintain intimacy & trust.
This is Silver Disobedience® philosophy. I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience ✨ A Perception Analyst who shares my Daily Meditations for other Ageless, Passionate & Curious People.