Forgiving and forgetting are the two best strategies I can think of for having a good day and an overall pleasant life.
I’ve been in business, self-employed, for more than 40 years. I’ve dealt with all kinds of people on my entrepreneurial up-and-down journey. Those who know me well, marvel that through it all I’ve maintained a pretty good attitude toward others and life.
Of course, I’ve been screwed many times and always by someone I really liked at first; otherwise, I’d have protected myself better. Friends and coworkers often remind me of those times. But the irony is, I have what I can only label “selective memory.”
While we all could collect an arsenal of reasons for bitterness, I genuinely don’t remember most negative incidents. I made the decision that certain things were just not worth remembering. Another way to look at it is this: Imagine our heads have only x number of storage compartments: Why would we want to fill them with junk?
Selective memory is a choice. While some might think this is a weakness, I believe it is a strength. In fact, I’d say it’s the root of power, not stupidity. It’s an empowering choice to forgive others, forget them if necessary and move on. The best revenge we can ever have against being done wrong, is to make the entire event irrelevant by forgetting it. Not allowing anything to hold power over us in a way that constrains our happiness is how we own our own strength.
If you disagree, I ask you to consider this truism: Anger corrodes the container that holds it.
This is Silver Disobedience® philosophy. I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience ✨ A Perception Analyst who shares my Daily Meditations for other Ageless, Passionate & Curious People. More info in my bio & my websites.