Self-reflection is either great motivation for assessing ways to make positive changes going forward or a form of self-torture that keeps us mired in thinking unproductively. Being self-reflective might be a good thing — in small doses. Take peeks into these windows, but don’t linger. Hanging out in the past takes you out of the moment and brings out your best dramatic creativity as you re-write the scripts: what you coulda, shoulda, woulda done. Thinking about how we reacted, what we did or could have done, rehashing the words expressed by anybody involved, rethinking about whatever someone else did or we did— removes us from what is happening now and what we can do today. Our pasts have included both wonderful and painful memories—and everything in between. But yesterday is past. Last year is even older. Reflect briefly, but avoid moving in for extended stays of reflection. There are far better hotels and places to inhabit. Benefit comes only from quick glances — like catching a reflection in a window. Then, move forward with conviction and trust. Know that the path we each walk is our path shaped from all of those experiences. This is how we become grateful, while having all of our future actions reflect we have learned along the way.

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@DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience is Chief #Influencer at SilverDisobedience and an Icon Model @WilhelminaModels @ApertureTalent  and a Strategist. She is an active blogger on all aspects of life and the wonders of age aging & age positive philosophy

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