Making a decision is easy. It’s the process of deciding that is difficult because we try to imagine countless scenarios, all based on “what ifs.”

When we think about having to make a decision, some of us go right to the worst case scenarios. Now looking at worst case outcomes and what we have to lose isn’t necessarily a bad practice because the easier tendency is to set our focus on what we have to gain. 

Now since I’m a pretty optimistic person, you might be surprised that for over 35+ years I ran my business asking myself not what I had to win by making certain moves — but what I had to lose. Once I decided I could live with the potential loss or downside, it was easier to decide, delegate and move forward.

But years of making decisions have evolved my thinking. Now, instead of wondering what I have to gain or lose, I’ve changed up the question. Now I ask myself, how I would “prefer” the situation, the outcome or the event to unfold.   

Focusing on my preferences for the outcome when a decision is necessary somehow clarifies my thoughts — making them feel less black and white. Weighing what I’d prefer adds a bit of color to my ultimate decision process and seems to make it less binary.

Next time you need to make a decision, try asking yourself what you’d prefer the outcome to be.

PS: This is a no makeup selfie…where the “skin in the game” adds the color to the black & white.

I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience is a Perception Analyst, Author of The Silver Disobedience Playbook and a direct model with Wilhelmina New York. #SilverDisobedience