No matter what age we are, it’s not uncommon to feel out of control. While it’s a fact that there are many things we can’t control — often the reason we feel out of control, frustrated, get angry, feel depressed, question our lives and our relationships — personal or work wise — is because we have created a lot of demands on our time and energy. Oddly, because we’re so capable it never occurs to us to delegate or ask another to carry their portion of the load or help.
IF we’ve been assuming that “everything” is our job, on some level, we’re more likely to blame and find fault with others. This happens because we’re not delegating, sharing duties, are assuming responsibilities that others are perfectly capable of handling themselves or we’re neglecting to ask for help when we need it.
It’s good to take regular inventory of what others ask us to do vs what we assumed as a role or responsibility. Often, we just start doing things because others aren’t doing them according to our invisible timeline or standards. Consequently our lives become impossible because of our own demands not necessarily those of others. When we own up to the fact that we don’t have to do it all, that maybe we’re demanding too much of ourselves, that possibly others are wholly capable of doing whatever without our help, that our way is not the only way, that trying to do everything perfectly is overrated in its ability to produce joy and under-rated in its ability to make us feel miserably out-of-control…we’re truly able to take control of our lives in far more productive ways.
I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience the author of The Silver Disobedience Playbook ✨ I’m a Perception Analyst who shares my Daily Meditations for other Ageless, Passionate & Curious People. Modeling info @Whlm.newyork —other info in my bio & on my websites.