It’s not an apology if we say, “I’m sorry, but…” This kind of statement is an attempt to absolve ourselves of any responsibility with the situation that necessitated the need for an apology.
When anyone does this it’s rooted in two issues: 1) Shame and the belief that somehow we are flawed. 2) The flawed belief that someone is either 100% right or wrong.
For a disagreement to arise, as the saying goes: It takes two to Tango. Very rarely is one party totally wrong…or right.
Since the goal is best set at peaceful resolution of our differences, it is helpful to do a personal inventory of what we may have done to contribute to, trigger or escalate the fight. Maybe we’re only 0.0001% wrong. But acknowledging that, might be the first step to better communication and healthier relationships.
This is a situation by situation choice. There’s never an excuse for abuse — so this is not referring to extreme, uncalled for communication. But rather a suggestion to find a way to preserve and strengthen our important relationships. An offer of apology, even when we’re only a little wrong, tends to really turn a situation (and another’s perspective) quickly.
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