When we are wrong, it’s important to take ownership for our actions and attitude with a sincere apology that specifically identifies what we realize and recognize that we did wrong. “I’m sorry, but” followed by… I was tired or you aggravated me or whatever….blah blah blah…” is not an apology. These are excuses. The word “but” after “sorry” means you’re still feeling justified for the way you acted and you are also expecting to be excused.
IF you ever need to apologize? Take time to think about what you did specifically. Ask for forgiveness when you apologize if you are wrong. Try a sincere: “I’m sorry.” Adding a genuine: “Will you forgive me?” is even better. Then start listening because the other may have some emotions they need to get out or maybe they just need time to process their hurt.
Also know that reciprocation should not be expected just because you decided to raise the level of communication within the relationship — even if you think the situation “took two to tango.” Just own-up to your own actions, sincerely apologize and do your best to make amends with actions that confirm the decision that you are committed to trying your best. Maintain your dignity in the process.
Remember: No butts. Or really, as I once heard a kid say: You’re just being a sorry butt.
I’m @DianGriesel aka a perception analyst & strategist; creative attitude disrupter & adjuster; author of The Silver Disobedience Playbook & TurboCharged: The Silver Disobedience Edition; and the blogger & model known as @SilverDisobedience More info on my websites (search my name) and at Wilhelmina Models. Silver Disobedience® is a Registered Trademark.