The ability to separate facts and feelings —which can develop at any age — is the best indicator of our level of wisdom and maturity. While we may have feelings about the facts; the facts are not interchangeable with our feelings. Any healthy conversation must strive to recognize this essential difference. A good way to start understanding and differentiating the difference between facts and our feelings is this: The next time you don’t know an answer or someone is speaking about something that you don’t know much about (though you might have some feelings regarding the subject) try saying: “I don’t know much about this. Tell me more of the facts.” As they speak, feel free to ask questions, like: “How interesting! Where did you learn that?” In the aftermath of the conversation, feel free to do your own substantiating research and rely on a variety of references to assure that you are, in fact, exploring facts. If or when you are asked how you feel about a topic, go ahead and thoughtfully describe your feelings about the facts. But if asked a question that requires facts for the answer? Remember: Feelings aren’t facts. So therefore, feelings are not part of the answer when discussing facts. Facts are. And when you’re not sure of either the facts or your feelings about the facts? Remember this as well: You have the right to remain silent.
Silver Disobedience® philosophy believes all healthy relationships begin with self-awareness. I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience ✨ I am a Perception Analyst and author of a bunch of books including: The Silver Disobedience Playbook. Here, I share my Daily Meditations for other Ageless, Passionate & Curious People. More info in my bio, my websites and at Wilhelmina New York.