Have you ever noticed how when we’re angry at someone it’s so hard to look at them? Or maybe you’re the opposite…when you’re angry you stare the other person down. Then there’s the times when we’re hurt and we want to just look past another—attempting to ignore their existence while we reconcile our emotions.  Yet again, when we feel in love…we get googily eyes!

It’s said that our eyes are the windows to our souls, so when we’re angry, venting, raging…maybe looking away is how we hide any shame we might feel about releasing those emotions.

But even sometimes when we’re feeling love and affection towards another, it can be hard to maintain eye contact. Is it embarrassment? Fear of having our feelings exposed and possibly not welcomed as we might prefer?

Gazing into another’s eyes brings reaction and emotion to the surface. It creates vulnerability.

Sometimes we avoid eyes of another because we’re feeling insecure, submissive, less than, unprepared, nervous, uncomfortable, disinterested, hiding, having a bad day…but sometimes its because of love.

It is eye contact where our power lies. It is our connection to another. It’s not just what we see, but how we see and feel.

If you notice yourself or another avoiding eye contact, you’ve received an important message worth deciphering. Trust, confidence and openness are missing. There is something causing inhibition.  While eye contact is associated with social connection, it’s also a balance.  And in an era when so much time is spent looking at a screen…maybe we need to focus on getting back to looking deep into the eyes of others and experiencing connection in the old-fashioned sense of the word.

@DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience is the #writer of this #blog. She’s represented by @WilhelminaModels @ApertureTalent For the past 25+ years & counting, Dian’s been a #corporate & #personal #strategist #consultant to 1000+ clients.

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