At 57 years old, I unexpectedly became a Wilhelmina Model. Casting agents & brands expected me to maintain an Instagram page. With a 27+ year career as a public relations executive & crisis manager who writes business books, I worried my PR clients would think I was having a mid-life crisis! ✨ I decided to make my photos “placeholders” for daily essays that I’d write about my self-perceptions, human commonalities & whatever else caught my interest. From Day 1, I offered full-disclosure, referencing my various “jobs” in my bio & posts. ✨ Considering this & the fact that in a no-membership-required-open-to-all-environment I share no-judgement, reflective insights, perspectives & ideas for all to consider — that business clients pay me to hear – it’s fascinating that some readers reprimand me when I post about carefully vetted partnerships. Some people have boldly told me: “Stop” (without offering to pay my bills!) Even more oddly, others have implied that making money by doing what I love — writing and sharing ideas while paying my own bills and not charging anyone to participate here — is “impure.” ✨ So with this as background, I’ll share what I do before criticizing others and/or their choices. I ask myself whether my opinions reflect my fears, insecurities & jealousies or self-doubt festering inside of me: All of which would therefore be wholly irrelevant to another’s state of mind or situation. 99% of the time? I conclude it’s best for me to zip it & listen, unless asked for my opinion. Why? Because my critical thinking & criticisms are nothing more than thinly disguised judgements directed towards another about myself– if I’m truly being honest. ✨Just a thought I’ve been considering…along with the acronym T.H.I.N.K tied to: “Think before you speak. ✨
T: Is your comment thoughtful?
H: Is your comment hurtful?
I: Is your comment intelligent?
N: Is your comment necessary?
K: Is your comment kind?”
I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience a perception analyst & strategist; creative attitude disrupter & adjuster; author of The Silver Disobedience Playbook, a blogger & Wilhelmina model.