How happy we feel is in direct relation to how quickly we choose to get over whatever made us unhappy in a moment.
Certainly our breadth of feelings deserve acknowledgement and sometimes we may need to have a discussion with the person that triggered our upset if the relationship is important to us.
That said, unless we’re talking about something super serious, for the most part, hanging onto our resentment keeps us bound to the unpleasant feelings tied to that moment.
So here’s something to consider: The next time our temptation arises to tell our friends all about what happened, remember that each time we retell our version of the event, we are keeping it alive and actually re-triggering the release of all the same stress hormones. That’s not healthy.
Sometimes if might be best to consciously decide to selectively release those thoughts by choosing to no longer give them a storyline by retelling the tale.
I’ve been practicing this and it’s quite amazing. Now, when someone asks how my day was, I stop and ask myself which events are really worth retelling. I assess whether I need someone’s advice or not. Then, I choose to keep to the positive — unless a negative event was really relevant and might have an impact tomorrow. If it won’t, it goes on the Pay-No-Mind List of things that deserve no repeating.
This approach doesn’t avoid issues: Rather I see this approach as an effective personal energy allocation system. If an adverse event won’t count tomorrow or in two weeks or even a year from now? I’m not wasting my energy retelling it. Give it a try and let me know how you feel!
I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience — the author of The Silver Disobedience Playbook and TurboCharged: The SilverDisobedience Edition (available at amazon!) ✨ I’m a Perception Analyst who shares my Daily Meditations for other Ageless, Passionate & Curious People. Modeling info at Wilhelmina Models New York —other info in my bio & on my websites.