Where we focus our attention will determine whether we believe life is going well or not. In a fast world, it’s easy to get focused on what we don’t have, and feel deprived. If the news bombards us with stories of violence, we may feel fearful.

Is the answer to move to a cave or develop a positive attitude?

I don’t think either.

Instead, it is far more helpful to look at what is it that rises within us and flips the trigger when we are confronted with situations where emotions of deprivation, fear, loneliness, worry, anxiety or anything else of the sort begin to rise.

By trying to think about the who, what, when, where and why emotions gets triggered, we can notice how our attention works and start noting the differences between how our lives have individually conditioned us to process things vs. what might actually be happening in the moment, in our home or back yard.   

Observing our miso-mash of thoughts, emotions and physical sensations can actually help us relax and separate our physical being from those emotions which are really just thoughts.  While we might think our brains are great multi-tasking machines that are perfectly processing everything accurately— we’re actually “context switching” and splitting our brains resources which triggers erroneous thinking and stress.  In computing a context switch is the process of storing the state of a process so it can be restored or executed upon at another time.  In a multitasking context this is really pausing one thing so we can start or resume another thought or action. Context switching often is triggered via an interruption (which is also what usually triggers stress and emotional reactions in daily life.) Whether in computing or in processing our daily lives, context switching has a cost in our performance. Instead of staying focused on actually what is happening, we get into a state of recalling a series of data that we are trying to layer into the moment, while there is a strong possibility it doesn’t compute.

The key to managing stress, emotions, and our lives in general is held in staying focused on the task or moment no matter what is circling around us. This is our biggest challenge and within it lies our greatest successes for whatever it is that we want. The journey of life is ideally a long one. Sometimes our hardest challenges come by deciding what we are NOT going to focus on.

This is Silver Disobedience® philosophy. I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience A Perception Analyst who shares my Daily Meditations for other Ageless, Passionate & Curious People.  More info in my bio & my websites.