Do you jump to conclusions? Of all the high-risk moves we might make in life, conclusion-jumping is one of the riskiest. It lies at the root of all miscommunication, whether in our personal lives or work lives.
While we might think we know exactly what another meant by what they said—do we?
The easiest way to get more peace in day-to-day life, while simultaneously improving communication, is this: If someone says something that makes us feel defensive, startled, hurt, confused, extra-excited or unsure regarding any comment directed toward us, it is far safer to ask for clarification versus jumping to conclusions.
When we jump to conclusions or make assumptions in our interpretations of another’s words, we risk the proverbial problem with “assume”: it makes an “ass” out of “you” and “me.”
Rarely is communication or expression by any of us concrete. Most is subject to interpretations—and our assessment of the words is most likely reflective of our wants, desires or fears.
I always think of my mother telling me I wore out the seat by the phone because some boy in high school said he’d call me and I would sit waiting. She’d ask, “When was he calling?” I’d reply, “I don’t know, but he said he’d call!” Needless to say, plenty of those calls never came.
If you’re not sure what someone said, if you question the intent of their words, if you doubt the meaning—ask if you really want to know!
It’s simple: “Can you please explain what you mean by that?” Asking the question that begs to be asked can solve a world of problems.
I’m @DianGriesel a Perception Analyst aka @SilverDisobedience This is an excerpt from by book, The Silver Disobedience Playbook which you can buy on Amazon. I’m also a direct model with Wilhelmina New York which is why I’m the chick in most of these pictures. #SilverDisobedience