Life has a way of bruising us all no matter how picture perfect our upbringings were or were not.

Recently I took 5 teenage boys to see the new @mid90smovie by @JonahHill. Hopefully the film gets the broader release it deserves because it’s exceptional. While some might think it’s a #comingofage #movie or just a flick for #skateboarders it is a movie about getting bruised up from life and pushing through anyway. The themes are plentiful—and addressed with humor and sensitivity. Best of all? The movie served as a catalyst for a deep conversation that lasted well-over an hour with all of the boys chiming in — which in teenager to adult time—is comparable to two weeks of talking.

Rough family lives, challenges though our school-years, friends who reject us, trying to fit in, figuring out how we’re going to support ourselves, intimacy that may or may not have been intimate: The bruising starts early and really never stops.

Our suffering is a direct reflection of whether we see our many life experiences as positive lessons and opportunities to grow — or not. If we continue to view them as open wounds that are unable to heal, we suffer.

Peace and clarity are possible. Both start by not believing and retelling stories of our past history.  Next we must accept that whatever happened was not personally directed at us. Then, if we keep our attention focused on what is happening in the moment, life improves exponentially. These concepts are the keys to unlocking our compassionate selves so we can truly love ourselves and embrace others.

Thanks for sharing some of your time with me as we travel a path destined for greater joy.

This is Silver Disobedience® philosophy. I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience A Perception Analyst who shares my Daily Meditations for other Ageless, Passionate & Curious People.  More info in my bio & my websites.