At some point while venturing through our individual journeys, we realize that others really can’t give us everything we think we want. When this realization dawns on us, the temptation arises to abandon that person (or situation) in search of something or someone different. The problem begins because we think that another’s inability to fulfill our wants means that they are being selfish or holding back.

The reality is actually this: We need to look at ourselves and realize that none of us can give what we don’t have. Until we can take care of our own needs in a way that nurtures our own hearts, it’s very difficult and stressful to share and care for others. This applies to each of us from birth to death. To visualize the problem of being emotionally  overwhelmed, imagine you asked a starving homeless person to share their food…and then made them feel guilty for not wanting to give up what may be their only meal.

We must each focus on giving ourselves enough of whatever it is that we need (healthy food for energy; sleep for recuperation; exercise for stress relief; quiet for thinking; time with friends and laughter; etc.) Through this self-care, we enhance our ability to share more freely while becoming better able to accept the limits of what others can give. At enough, we share.

I’m @DianGriesel aka a perception analyst & strategist; creative attitude disrupter & adjuster; author of The Silver Disobedience Playbook & TurboCharged: The Silver Disobedience Edition; and the blogger & model known as @SilverDisobedience  More info on my websites (search my name) and at Wilhelmina Models. Silver Disobedience® is a Registered Trademark.