The dictionary defines “reaction” as: 1) an action performed or a feeling experienced in response to a situation or event; 2) a person’s ability to respond physically and mentally to external stimuli; 3) an adverse physiological response to a substance that has been breathed in, ingested or touched. ✨ If or when we feel our defenses starting to rise during a present situation, our reactions to the present situation are actually mental “re-actions” (read that kind of like a mental repeat). As such, when we react aggressively or in an agitated way to people or circumstances, we may have mentally stepped out of the present. Rather, then watching what is happening in the new moment, we have moved into our immense head-case filing system (yes, pun intended) and may be pulling out some old files. In nanoseconds, the result is that we are trying to connect unrelated memories or feelings about a past moment to the present situation. So instead of staying present and assessing the current circumstance or person, in our minds, specifically via filed memories, we are “re-acting” some other moment and trying to tie it to the present one. We have slipped into a state of “re-call” and response.✨ Since the current moment we are in  has never happened to any of us before, unless it is one where we are in life danger, we don’t want to be “re-acting.” We want to be wholly present to the individual and moment at hand. ✨Not “re-acting” is the only way we can really see and try to understand another person or deal with the current facts of the situation at hand.✨

I’m @DianGriesel aka a perception analyst & strategist; creative attitude disrupter & adjuster; author of The Silver Disobedience Playbook & TurboCharged: The Silver Disobedience Edition; and the blogger & model known as @SilverDisobedience  More info on my websites (search my name) and at Wilhelmina Models. Silver Disobedience® is a Registered Trademark.