‘We’ve got a situation’ is a new phrase for saying we’ve got a problem that needs a solution. Often when a ‘situation’ arises our tendency is to look for who’s at fault as we seek to assign blame.

When this happens, we’re experiencing a form of spiritual interference. Instead of recognizing our connectedness and the fact that like-it-or-not we’re all in this thing called ‘life’ together, we begin to become separate. This separation is at the root of loneliness, depression, hurt and a whole slew of emotional states that none of us particularly enjoy.

When we have a ‘situation’ perhaps it might help to stop and carefully consider whether the fault-finding we immediately resort to is really our own foundation of beliefs…or maybe, just maybe, something we picked up along our life journey that is worth examining.

Fault-finding thinking is usually rooted in learned behavior. This isn’t an opportunity to blame our parents or other teachers: After all, that would be fault-finding thinking too.  Rather, the idea here is to stop and think about the judgements we make because this is the way we can begin to understand how our past conditioning impacts our present relationships for better or for worse…and maybe it’s time for a thought-audit.

Before assigning blame in any situation, it’s a worthwhile exercise to not re-act but to ask ourselves: Do I have an old issue that’s still lurking around in the recesses of my mind that’s making me immediately defensive, angry, frustrated & ready to blow a gasket?

This week in NYC we all witnessed the damage of old pipes and steam building up…and we don’t want this kind of destruction to impact our relationships. So, before we blow our tops over a situation…stop and silently ask…do we really need blame or do we need to work together to find a compromise or solution.

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