Here’s a helpful exercise. Make a list of all your good points. Type it or write it on paper. Be generous. Pretend you’re someone you really like 😉 Then, start adding all the things that people have told you they liked about you over the years. Think about compliments you received. Add everything you can think of that you’ve been praised for since the day you were born.

Everybody has good points. They aren’t always acknowledged by others but that’s no reason not to acknowledge them yourself. We can easily forget all the things we’ve done right and do right—and the things about us that are right. Sometimes we wish others would just notice and understand—but we can each be our own “someone” who notices.

The reasoning behind this exercise is that as we get older, we tend to become more self-reflective. Unfortunately, we often magnify the times when we were criticized or embarrassed along with the times we think we did something wrong and wish we could do over. Too often, we tend to forget the times we were praised and did things right. Carrying that load of criticism, while forgetting to pack the good stuff, doesn’t just feel bad; it can make us think negatively about ourselves, our lives, our circumstances and our abilities for future possibilities.

Reminding yourself of your positive traits won’t make you too full of yourself. It won’t make you an egomaniac. It will just help you recognize your good characteristics and actions, of which there are many. Making a list helps you remember things you might not otherwise take the time to acknowledge. Get to it! 

 I’m @DianGriesel aka @SilverDisobedience the author of The Silver Disobedience Playbook I’m a Perception Analyst who shares my Daily Meditations for other Ageless, Passionate & Curious People