Dating in our forties, fifties and beyond is way different than dating in our twenties or even thirties. Older dating involves not just making a possible love connection between two people – but a merger of a families, children and friends.  Is finding a mate or life partner worth the effort? Certainly, nobody needs a significant other to be complete – but equally certain is that steady companions can add to our life equations if we’ve chosen them carefully. AND, let us say this: Getting out and connecting is always worth the effort! Here are some tips for midlife dating whether after a divorce or the death of a spouse.

  • Take your time: It’s important to give yourself time to heal and process your emotions before jumping into the dating scene after any personally emotional event. Rushing into a new relationship may not be the best idea, and it’s important to ensure that you’re emotionally ready to start dating again.
  • Be clear about what you want: Before you start dating, take some time to think about what you want in a partner and relationship. This will help you avoid getting into a relationship that isn’t right for you.
  • Use online dating sites: Online dating sites can be a great way to meet new people, especially if you’re not comfortable going out to other social events. Just be sure to use reputable sites and take precautions to protect your safety.
  • Be honest about your past: If you’re dating after a divorce or the death of a spouse, it’s important to be honest about your past. This doesn’t mean that you have to share everything on the first date, but it’s important to be upfront about your history.
  • Take care of yourself: Self-care is important at any age, but it’s especially important when you’re dating after a divorce or the death of a spouse. Take time to do things that you enjoy, spend time with friends and family, and focus on your physical and emotional well-being. Don’t be reluctant to ask family and friends for date suggestions!
  • Be attuned to your sense of loneliness: It can be tempting to grab on to someone just because you’re lonely or want to be in a relationship, but it’s very important to remember that it is far better to be with someone who, you feel a connection with and one with whom you can be self-expressed.
  • Be open-minded: While it’s important to have certain standards and deal-breakers, it’s also important to be open-minded when it comes to dating. You never know who you might meet and what you might learn from them.

Dating can be challenging at any age, but with a positive attitude and a willingness to put yourself out there, you can find love and companionship in midlife – if that is what you seek.

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